Hello Lovely Living

View Original

5 Tips To Boost Your Emotional Wellbeing

If only life were all roses, but no matter which background or environment you come from, all of us still have bad days and feel less than optimum. Fortunately, there are many helpful strategies to apply if we need a practical boost to our emotional well-being. Read on to find out what they are. 

No. 1

Sit with your feelings

While it may sound counterintuitive, sitting with your feelings and not pushing them away can be very helpful. Many forms of meditation recommend doing this as a beneficial practice to build personal resilience and to allow negative emotions to move through you and be released. 

Of course, sitting with negative emotions such as fear, pain, and anger can be very uncomfortable, so there are a few things you might like to try to ease the discomfort. Firstly, approach it within a formal meditation practice, where you can carefully tune into your emotions with compassion. If this becomes too overwhelming, you can instead focus on breathing exercises to help calm your nervous system. 

Alternately, some people find that moving with their emotions is easier than sitting statically with them. Moving meditations such as Yoga, Tai Chi, and Qi Gong can work well for this. Similarly, many people find that their daily exercise practices like going on a morning run or fitness training are effective in the same way. 

No. 2

Revisit and set healthy goals

Another way to give yourself an almost instant emotional lift is to check in with your values and set goals that align with them. This technique is not so much about getting rid of your negative feelings but putting your time and focus on something beneficial and directing your attention toward something positive. Goals will help you see the broader picture and help you work toward solutions instead of becoming stuck in a downward spiral that only brings you down. 

While setting goals when you are struggling emotionally, you must be both realistic and compassionate with yourself; this means it is often much better to set small, achievable goals, as this will give you a real sense of achievement that can help give you that dopamine boost you need and spur you into more deliberate action later. 

No. 3

Seek and give forgiveness

Often our emotional well-being can be out of balance because we need to forgive ourselves or others. Unfortunately, forgiveness can be a long and challenging process, especially if the thoughts and feelings around the action or person you need to forgive persist. So, giving yourself time and allowing healthy space for the process to unfold will make it much less burdensome. 

The good news is there are a few ways to practice forgiveness effectively. One is to connect with your faith or spirituality and appeal to a higher power. Many faith practices have a specific prayer for forgiveness that can be recited. Such prayers are tools to begin or enhance the forgiveness process, so you could also create your own prayers or affirmations for this purpose.

Regardless of your spiritual background, apologizing or accepting an apology from someone who has wronged you can facilitate forgiveness and help lessen the emotional burden of painful experiences. 

No. 3

Reach out for help 

Naturally, during certain seasons in your life, you will struggle with your emotional well-being because you will encounter experiences that will affect your mental health at one point or another. As of 2019, approximately 1 in every 8 people worldwide struggled with a mental health problem, and that number continues to rise.

With that in mind, if you suspect this is the case for you, seeking professional help and treatment is crucial. Mental health treatments commonly involve medications and different types of therapy. However, the course of treatment you choose will rely heavily on your knowledge of the available options and your willingness to find what works for you.

While many current therapies focus less on discovering the root cause of the issue and more on practical skills, this allows you to better cope with the symptoms so you can focus on feeling better first. Further along, this will prepare you to discover and apply a system that works for you so you can build resilience and apply the tools that are most effective. This will help build your strength toward approaching the root causes that must be addressed for meaningful and lasting change.

To get the help you need and to explore your options, a great place to start is to speak to your general practitioner or a mental health specialist, or contact a mental health charity that can advocate for you. 

No. 4

Nurture your needs

It may sound simple, but quite often if your emotional well-being is off, all it takes to feel a little better is to rest and return to something that brings you joy. Ask yourself one question: What is one positive thing I can do right now that will help nurture me back to a peaceful state of rest?

Thankfully, the answer to that question is the only thing separating you from feeling better. When our needs are unmet, we will feel overwhelmed, which causes unfavorable feelings to arise. So, it is in listening to yourself that you ensure you are not neglecting your needs.

Consider something as simple as going for an early morning walk or visiting a new place, which can take you out of your current state and help you see that there are more beautiful moments yet to be considered or experienced.

Additionally, if you sit down and write down all the needs you feel you have been neglecting, you can start planning ways to meet them. Before you know it, you will find so much fulfillment, because life is really about creating opportunities to experience it in new ways. This allows us to apply new meaning to new experiences and to flourish in ways we never knew we could.

No. 5

Connect with loved ones 

Lastly, connecting with loved ones and friends near or far is an excellent idea if you need a quick boost to your emotional well-being. Sometimes all it takes is hearing a concerned voice and reestablishing connections to comfort you in times of emotional distress. There are many ways to do this, even if you live far away and can not see them in person.

For example, you can choose from a number of calling apps that make it easy to stay in touch no matter where your family and friends are located. Video calls, specifically, are so important because they make you feel like you are in the presence of your friends and family, so it is worth making time for especially if you are feeling disconnected. This is bound to have a positive effect on your emotional well-being. 

Takeaways

While it may be challenging to do any number of the strategies outlined in this article when you are going through emotional distress, keep in mind that any deliberate action in a positive direction is enough to start creating a new path for yourself toward healing. Often, it is in our lack of action that we become debilitated.

Creating new habits, routines, and systems that you can fall back on will have you rewiring your brain and will get you excited and looking forward to more of what makes you feel better in the long run. When we get outside of our current state and create a new direction, we begin to see that there is always something better beyond our current circumstances. We have the power to create something new and better for ourselves, whenever we decide to make that decision and take that first step.