The Calm In The Chaos: How to Stay Focused + Positive
Do you ever wonder how some people can stay so focused no matter what is happening around them?
Gosh, what is up with those people!? An asteroid could be approaching earth, and they'd still be in their own world.
Confession. I'm one of those very people. *covers eyes*
I'd like to offer some insight into the mind of someone (me) who can stay freakishly focused.
Oh, I do have my moments (don't get me wrong), but it does take a lot - and I mean a A LOT - to get me distracted.
Once I set my heart on something, it's done. It's over. I will follow through.
Now, for the positivity - that has taken a lot of work for me over the years. It'll always be a work in progress for me, but I think staying focused + positive go hand-in-hand.
I'll be sharing 10 ways that have worked for me in staying focused + positive in business and in life.
I hope this will be helpful to those of you who are trying to find that balance.
Before we start, first thing's first: I want to point out something so important.
We are all born with unique traits and abilities that come natural to us without us even trying. Once you identify what those are for you, you'll have a better hold on yourself and on life.
Self-awareness is an important step in understanding how to stay focused + positive because only you know what motivates you.
When you have control over yourself, you become stronger and more able to deal with anything in life. We can't always control what happens in life, but we can control our actions and how we respond to things.
So, what does this have to do with this post? I want to stress the importance of knowing your strengths and realizing that those were given to you for a reason.
I used to absolutely hate the fact that I was so observant. Absolutely hate it. You know why?
Because I saw everything. I couldn't close my eyes to things (oftentimes hurtful things), because my eyes were so open and soaking in everything. I'd notice details that no one else would.
As I grew older, I realized that this was one of my gifts.
I'd like you to first discover and identify your unique gifts and actually use those to your advantage in staying focused + positive.
Capitalize on those natural abilities you have. You do it best, and that is why you need to use them.
Once you identify your unique gifts in all areas of life, you will have a better hold on dealing with things. Your weaknesses wouldn't matter because you'd be focusing on your strengths.
This is powerful.
So, now let's get into how I personally stay focused + positive. Here we go!
Hit the pause button.
This has saved much heartache, and it will continue to save me much heartache.
We all have the natural tendency to judge situations before they even have time to simmer. I am guilty all the time. I worry A LOT. I question things A LOT.
But, the one thing that has saved me most times is taking a minute to let things play out, naturally.
When we rush things, we end up reacting in ways that may not be authentic to ourselves. We may say or do things that aren't the best representation of us.
Many times, I've also found that my emotional state at the moment had influenced my reactions as well. So many factors come into play when situations arise, so taking a minute to digest everything works wonders.
Learn to respond, not react. This means, when something happens, instead of instantly reacting, give it some time.
Evaluate the situation for as long as you need to, then respond. A reaction is not always necessary.
2| Lessen your distractions
This one's a tricky one.
I was going to say cut out all of your distractions, but let's be real, some distractions are just a part of life and can't be avoided. Mommy life, anyone?
Instead, let's do a fun little exercise, shall we?
Identify all of your key distractions and try to lessen any of them that you have control over.
If there's anything in particular that doesn't add value to your life, go ahead and ditch that mother.
One of the distractions that I had and made a decision to eliminate was Facebook.
Anytime I would get off of Facebook, I would always think, did I just waste 2 hours of my life just now?
I would feel horrible, not only because I wasted valuable time, but I unwillingly became a part of negativity or drama on a daily basis.
So, that habit had to go.
Distractions could be people, places, things, etc.
3| Be mindful of what you allow
Sometimes the very things that we allow into our lives are the very things that drown us and keep us down.
Learn to be selective about what you allow into your life. It could be something small, but things grow roots.
Everything drains our time in one way or the other, so let it be something worthwhile.
Keep an eye out on everything that comes into your life - be it opportunities, people, or things.
Every cause has an effect, so if it's not something that will add value to your life (as stated earlier) identify it, and don't allow it. Preventing hurt or disappointment from happening down the road is so worth it.
Filter through things before you allow it to take up your time, energy, and attention. You'll need all of that for the more important things.
Let your yes be yes and your no be no, and only say yes to those things that you feel are worthwhile. So many times we say yes to things that don't serve us well or that we don't really want to do.
Don't be afraid to say no in order to say yes to what really matters.
5| Be authentic to you
Focus on your own stuff.
So many times we are losing our focus because we are taking our attention off of our own path and staring too hard at someone else's.
We need to pull the plug of comparison and realize that the answers are within us.
Focus on what you do best. Focus on your strengths.
I came across a post on Instagram one day by fellow boss babe, Promise Tangeman, that stuck with me.
She said, "Don't waste your time trying to 'find' your style. The truth is you already have it. You may just need to create more in order to see it."
I think this is so true.
We need to focus on creating from our unique space and see where it takes us.
Staying focused is so important in being a creative. You need to protect your space because outside influences can unknowingly interfere with your authenticity.
You want to be true to you, and that takes looking inward and being mindful of distractions that could interfere with that on a daily basis.
6| Know what you want
What are your priorities? What's important to you?
These questions will help you focus better.
When you know what you want and where you want to be, you will have a clearer vision of what you need to do to get there. When you know what's at the top of your list, you'll be able to breeze through all of these steps with ease.
It's amazing what we'll do for what we want.
If you have made a decision that you don't want negativity in your life, you'll steer clear from it.
Making clear and conscious choices toward what you want is a definite way to get closer to your goals and to achieving them.
Setting priorities is so important especially when there are so many things that are pulling for our attention on a daily basis.
When you know what you want, you'll be able to communicate that to the world, and it will come back to you.
If you put out love and encouragement, guess what? That's exactly what you'll be associated with and that's what you'll attract.
7| Identify your why
There's something so life-changing in knowing exactly why you are doing things in the first place.
Start with the basics.
Why do you wake up in the morning? Why do you go to work? Why do you want a better life for your family?
Once you begin to answer these things, your life will take on a deeper meaning and you'll be so motivated to wake up every day.
There's nothing like being on a path with no direction. We need to be headed somewhere in order to feel driven.
If you don't know where you're going or why you're doing it, you'll be headed no where fast.
Be inspired by your "why" and let it be that constant inspiration for you.
8| Celebrate small victories
Take the time, even if but for a moment, to celebrate those small victories of yours.
We need to be our best cheerleaders!
Sometimes days turn into months and months turn into years, and we forget to stop and enjoy where we are today.
There's a lot that needed to happen for you to reach the point that you are at now, so be proud of it.
It will motivate you to keep pressing forward and to not give up.
9| Don't dig up in doubt what you planted in faith
Let's face it, some days are not the best, and some days you may question if what you're focusing your energy on is even worth the sleepless nights, stress, and uncertainty.
But, stop for a minute and know one thing: There was a moment in time where you made a decision.
You put your heart out and risked everything for it. You knew that you'd have to muster up the courage to execute it.
For that very reason, you demonstrated great faith, and it's for that exact same reason that you can't give up no matter how difficult things get.
10| Do it with all your heart, or not at all
I wanted my final tip to just encourage you to not be too hard on yourself.
I know how difficult things can get sometimes, and the pressure to perform and be amazing is overwhelming to say the least.
Give yourself the permission to take a break when you feel you need it.
Don't worry, things will not fall apart. People can wait. Demands can chill.
You need to focus on yourself, your happiness, and if you need to refresh your perspective or just need a little breather, do it.
It's better to do things with all of you instead of putting out something that's not from your heart or that is forced.
Allow yourself to be exactly as you are in all seasons of life.
If you made it to the end of this post, you are a true rockstar! I do hope that this was helpful for you and that it truly provides some actionable steps that you can take to get more focused + stay positive.
If you need more inspiration on the daily, I post every day on Instagram + I keep you motivated and accountable to those dreams of yours! I'm here for you, and I am rooting for you every step of the way!
Do you have any tips on how you stay focused + positive? Please share with all of us in the comments below!